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Wednesday, October 20, 2010

I Know TOO Much

Nope...I'm not talking about being super intelligent and knowing too much. (Not that I'm saying I lack intelligence ~ HAHA!) But that's not what I mean.

What I mean is...

I know too much that has happened in the last 7 (almost 8) years of our country being at war.

I know too much about things my brother has experienced when he was deployed.

I know too much about the bad things that CAN happen.

I know too much about what A has experienced during this deployment.

I know too much!

In an email that I received a couple days ago, A said it himself. He said that he knows he shares too much information with me sometimes and that he knows it causes me to worry. This is true, but I always tell him to talk to me about things if he needs to and not to be concerned about me worrying. I'm going to worry regardless of what I know. I love the fact that he is comfortable talking to me about things, but there are times that I feel like I know too much. And that's ok, I've been dealing with it pretty well throughout this deployment. I am just ready for it to come to an end. Obviously, I have been ready for that since it began, but it has truly gotten to me at this point. I have a lot of things coming up in the next couple of weeks which have me looking forward to them and then into those events comes A coming home. So before I know it, it will be here, but I'm ready to no longer worry about "Knowing Too Much"!

How much does your soldier/sailor/airman/marine/coastie share with you during a deployment? Have you felt like you "Knew Too Much"?


  1. It seems like I always heard more from the ladies vs what my husband would tell me. But then when he gets home I feel better about asking him questions about it all. I think it is easier for me to take when it is in the past.

  2. My ex was a Secret Service agent.

    I knew WAY too much. I think he told me so much because he knew I'm a vault. I'm pretty sure he'd have gotten in a LOT of trouble had anyone known that I knew what I do.

    That's still the case with the hubs currently. I still know way too much.

  3. SB won't tell me anything! He's afraid to make me worry and frankly, I'm ok with that! I know a general idea of what he does and the places he goes and I worry enough as it is. He let it slip one day about a bullet wound and I about lost it and now he's even more careful what he says.

    My ex, however, did not have the same point of view and was more than happy to overshare. It gave me knots of stress in my stomach if I went more than a day without hearing from him.

    I'd prefer to not know. It makes it easier.

  4. Blah I get told about EVERYTHING and Im ready for that not to be thought of as a normal evening conversation!

  5. My hubs tells me way too much stuff but I'd rather know than not know.

  6. Actually my husband doesn't tell me much of anything! In one sense, it makes me feel like he's protecting my emotions but at the same time, I feel like he doesn't trust me. I know it's not that but in certain instances, he does tell me too much and then I start to worry!

  7. I am glad you can be there for A. I told Pat, I said I want to know EVERY DETAIL .. I want to know every IED you encounter, every 9Line you have to call, every mission you go on ..

    I guess it helps me understand what he truly goes through since I don't know anything about the first deployment he was in.

    I like hearing his stories and it gives him a chance to unload. The night he lost his Iraqi friend was a very hectic night for him, but I was glad I could hear about it.